I did the first part of of Marie Kondo method of cleaning out clothes closet.

I piled everything up and put away things that don’t spark my joy, and put back in the closet those that do.

I meant to do this for long time, mostly because my hanger closet didn’t have anymore space to put anything else in.

I had Marie Kondo book for quite a while now, and the Netflix show only gave me a kick I needed.

Now I have to actually throw away stuff that is too old for using and put online the stuff I want to sell/give away.

It’s freeing. And actually I never felt this happy cleaning

mirrorworld12:

Cr-insta

bardstard:

whaleinwhite:

youmattered:

comfydummy:

drugismybaby:

2019 is supposedly about healing and about self love but you also need to understand that those things take time and you’re not going to flip a switch and love yourself over night it’s a long process don’t put so much pressure on yourself to love yourself right away that’s more damaging than anything else

poetry-protest-pornography:

hauntified:

petalya:

petalya:

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” bit there because it IS super telling

Tying your self worth to what you do for others is just as dangerous as surrounding yourself with people who only want you for what you can do for them.

Compassion and empathy and being kind are amazing qualities to have. Caring for others and helping when you can are great and essential for balanced relationships; that’s the thing though, you need to get these things back. You need to get compassion and kindness back, from people who value your intelligence, your sense of humor, your awkward dance moves, your art/poetry/stick figure comics, you.

You are incredible, and you need to know that.